Sunday, September 30, 2012

Marriage Journey Pt. 1 {My Journey to Submission}

Submission. I cringe at the thought of that word. I have fought hard to not be that wife, not be that woman, to just not hear nor discuss that word. But like all things in our lives God has other plans. He has other plans for my marriage. Although I have fought, begged, pleaded, and cried to God to just leave me alone and let me be, He has prevailed with the words "My daughter, you have much to learn. I know better then you, trust me, your marriage wants and needs to grow. Your marriage and husband want all of you." I want to stab those words, right in the eye. I don't want to hear them, even though now that I have they play over and over again in  my mind. All day long I ponder those words. I replay many a conversation with My Father over in my head. I wonder why He designed marriage the way he did. I wonder why we must feel so unequal compared to our husbands. I know in my heart that society is why I would/do feel this way. Society doesn't make it easy for Christian women to walk their marriage on God's path. Society teaches woman and men are equal, you must be independent, you must not rely on anyone, you must not trust anyone, everything is about money, everything is about being a size zero, nobody loves or cares for anyone. Yep, that sums up society's view. But that is NOT what God's view is, apparently. I mentioned in my last post some other sites that clarify what God's view of submission is. If your interested you can go read them for further reference. I also mentioned that Submission isn't a easy pill to swallow. It's a big curse word in today's world, is a hush word that many don't ever discuss. I am willing to talk about it, I am willing to share with you my journey to submission in my own marriage, I am willing to follow what God says is right and do my wifely duties without a battle. I am willing to surrender my control. That's the big bad word, control. Women today want to control everything, we seem to think we have it all together, that we can carry more then we should be. We think no one can do a equal or better job then we can. But our husbands know us more then we think. They can handle things that we cannot or shouldn't be handling. I want to share my journey with you. I hope that through me, someone else can learn something, whether it be a single woman, a bride to be, a newly wife, or a seasoned wife. I want to share to help. I do not in any way intend to point fingers. I know this is a huge touchy subject for marriages and couples today. I am open to any resources you may want to share with me too, whether it be a article you find, a blog or website, or even a book, please feel free to share it with me. I am learning just as you may be. So, lets talk about submission shall we...

Submission: The action or fact of accepting or yielding to a superior force or to the will or authority of another person.

Although I do not care much for the definition of this word, I do understand it. And its a hard pill to swallow that you are under the authority of another.

So, what does the Bible say?:

Ephesians 5:22-24 ESV
Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord.  For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands.

To me those verses plainly state that wives are to submit to their husband, it also states that husbands are the head of the wife. I don't believe it can be stated any clearer, well not to me anyway.

Now, lets talk about what I will be working on this week:

My tongue. I don't currently know when to hold it. I tend to not think about what I say or what I do on most occasions when it comes to my husband. I tend to hassle him on things and say things that I shouldn't even when I know I am wrong. I tend to question his authority{A LOT}...I believe I have to have a answer for everything, and I end up getting things all distorted in my marriage which makes for some long nights of arguing and unhappiness. For example: The nights my husband works later then he should {he is a manager at a local well known extremely busy Transmission shop} I tend to give the kids leftovers for dinner, and not eat myself. I then beg him to go grab me something from somewhere. And I usually aggravate him enough that he will...well, I tested myself tonight{As I type this its 9/28/12}. He worked late, I ate applejacks while the kids had a movie. When he got home I asked him to get me something. Now I wasn't really hungry, but I was in a sense too{you know how we are}...I asked him twice, however he repeated "No" both times. Instead of me hassling him or starting a argument stating "I'd go get something myself then" I just said "Ok, and finished looking online at something. I didn't ask again, I bit my tongue. It is not what I would normally do, so to me I pass at this given moment. We will see how the week goes.

My Goal is to: Bit my tongue and not question my husbands authority. {You can join me in my weekly goals, or create your own based upon your own things to work on...But I do urge you to set one each week and note how you handle it and how well you do or what you should work further on}

I urge you to re-evaluate your marriage, are you having issues with submission in your marriage? Do you have any resources you could swing my way? Please share some thoughts, resources, or a quick note on what you think about this topic....Have a Great Sunday!

1 comment:

  1. Wouldn't it be nice if everyone's life was so simple? :)


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