Friday, June 21, 2013

{The Beauty of Women in a Unmodest World}


Over the weekend my best friend and I went out a couple of times to piddle around our local stores. While looking around between clothing and cosmetics to hair and body care I kept thinking about how stores looked back in the day and how women actually shopped them. In the clothing I am always shocked by the length of shorts and the low-cut shirts, it never fails to really shock me. I don't understand why women of age want to flaunt around their body like they do. A simple pair of jeans that aren't too tight and a tee with a neckline that isn't to your belly button would do. I am a bigger woman, what gets me the most is that everything is tailored to fit someone who is a size 2. You could get the correct size for yourself but if you're a 12 or 14 it wont look good on you because of your figure. We went to Old Navy and looked for some Tee's for me and I seen a couple of shirts that I really like had I been a size Small but I am a Large so it just looks like a bag on me, no shape at all, which makes you look bigger than you really are.

Something else that really shocks me is the amount of ladies that just are not modest about their body. I see young girls who dress like they are in their older teens, and grown women who dress like they are still teenagers, and believe it or not I have seen older women try to dress like they are in their teens. Its awful. One thing that I believe shocks me the most is when women go out without a bra. It's inevitable to go to Wal-Mart or Target, or even the mall and not see a woman who doesn't have on a bra, I mean come on, you can get a bra for as little as $7 at Ross, could you not put the ladies up even if you don't take care of the rest of yourself, or the way bigger ladies wearing what today calls booty shorts that honestly look plainly like underwear on them. Just not pretty women...

I tend to look at little girl clothes too for my daughter who is 8. She is the only girl and when her and I go out to the stores and look around I am astonished at how little fabric is in that section. Its summer, they have out swimsuits but honestly I don't really consider that a swimsuit, I am sorry but Hannah Montana is long grown up, we don't need all these slogans of I love boys, or girls rule, or peace signs and kisses on the swimsuit, could we not get a swimsuit with hearts or birds, or floral designs instead...Not to mention again the shorts that are way too short, my husband would die if I got Gaby shorts that were 5 inches from the waist to the leg...Its just plainly wrong to advertise young girls bodies like that. I know that for me as a mother I don't want my daughter dressing like that and I know that I don't want my sons to look at women like they are objects rather than human beings. The way us moms carry ourselves will greatly impact the way our children do, same goes for fathers, if fathers are lusting after inappropriate dressed women chances are the sons will too, and the daughters wont respect themselves either.

Lustful eyes are everywhere, the world is sick, and I honestly blame the clothing companies and TV stations. Everywhere you turn you have too little fabric, too much nudity in movies and shows and even magazines. Its gross in my opinion. Women want to be seen as strong and beautiful but men see us as toys because of what we choose to do with ourselves.

When I was in high school some years ago obviously most young adults at that age have hit or are soon to hit puberty, the guys were obnoxious and the young ladies were mostly not young ladies, if you tried to keep to yourself or didn't look like the people in the magazines to some degree you were considered ugly or geeky...however most of those girls were the prettiest because they let their inner beauty shine rather than flaunt themselves the way the other girls did. I cannot tell you how many times you would walk down a hallway and guys would smack girls on the behind, or whistle, or even make nasty or mean comments depending on who the girl was, even girls would treat the other girls badly because of how they looked thinking in the end it made them look so much better to the guys around when really it made them look like idiots.

Women back in the day covered up, they wore clothes that weren't so showing, they took care of themselves by getting ready and men found their beauty in their minds rather than their bodies so much. Yes there were women who flaunted too much but it was a bit more rare than in today's world. Women wore dresses that weren't too short, nice outfits that suited their bodies, had their hair fixed neatly and didn't overdo the makeup. Beauty is in the classic not the current. 

Growing up thankfully the women in my life took time to care for themselves rather than time to flaunt themselves, they aged gracefully...My grandmother always looked nice, she always did her face and hair, my mom the same, I watched my mom get ready almost every day and she took the time to care for herself the right ways...We would spend time talking and laughing over doing our nails, she would do my hair and if I was lucky I would get some of her makeup goodies upon her cleaning it all out. She would explain everything to me and I listened to every word...When she shopped for clothes or shopped for us girls she was careful at what she selected. She never wore anything too tight, too short, or had too showy of a neckline. She made sure we were modest just like she was. I have tried as a mother to pass that along to my children especially my daughter.

Below is a poem that I found very fitting for the post today, I remember reading this poem years ago and I didn't grasp it the way I do now. It really shows how women get their beauty over time...

Time Tested Beauty Tips
The following was written by the late educator-humorist Sam Levinson for his grandchild and read by Audrey Hepburn on Christmas Eve, 1992. It was also used by Ms. Hepburn on occasion when she was asked for beauty tips. [From Audrey Hepburn by Barry Paris, 1996, Putnam]

For attractive lips, speak words of kindness.

For lovely eyes, seek out the good in people.

For a slim figure, share your food with the hungry.

For beautiful hair, let a child run his or her fingers through it once a day.
For poise, walk with the knowledge that you never walk alone.

People, even more than things, have to be restored, renewed, revived, reclaimed and redeemed; never throw out anyone.

Remember, if you ever need a helping hand, you’ll find one at the end of each of your arms.

As you grow older, you will discover that you have two hands, one for helping yourself, the other for helping others.

The beauty of a woman is not in the clothes she wears, the figure that she carries, or the way she combs her hair.

The beauty of a woman must be seen from within her eyes, because that is the doorway to her heart, the place where love resides.

The beauty of a woman is not in a facial mole but the true beauty in a woman is reflected in her soul. It is the caring that she lovingly gives, the passion that she shows.

The beauty of a woman grows with the passing years.
{Sam Levenson}

I believe the poem above stats it all for some current day modesty...I wish more women would understand that their bodies are the only body they have and they shouldn't draw the wrong attention to it, they need to take care of it in a respectful manner and cherish the words of their mothers, grandmothers, and women before them. Classic women like Audrey Hepburn, Grace Kelly, and Marilyn Monroe are good examples of real classic beauty...Audrey and Grace were simple and girl next door, while Marilyn wasn't a size 2...you can be beautiful at any age and any size without flaunting your body around. Cherish what you have and respect the body you are blessed with ladies. Before you go out think about what you are presenting to the people who will see you, is the right attention or wrong attention?!




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