Friday, May 09, 2014

We As Women Never Fade Away...

Do you ever feel like you fade away among the world and all its people? Like you just don’t stand out enough to be your own unique person?

I heard the quote above this morning in a commercial for the movie Fading Gigolo, and it really got stuck in my mind today. I thought about myself, friends, family, people I know all over the world, but most of all women as a whole. I feel like woman are always looking for who they are, who they aspire to be, and more often than not looking behind them to see whose there starring at their little trails of dust.

In middle school the majority of girls had or were just beginning their stages of puberty, we were filling out all over the place, and with the beginning of those raging hormones and mood swings came the hateful words of our peers that bore right into our minds of how we were and what we looked like; the toughest of the bunch to gain approval from was our fellow ladies. Usually in middle school is when you create your little niche of friends and you hang out and grow with them all through the coming years of high school while dropping a few old people and gaining a few new people all while having those raging hormones and making yourself stand out among the other fish in the sea. I remember being in about tenth grade when I finally realized that I wanted to stand out on my own, not because of who I was around but because I was unique and my own person. I have always had a strong opinion, never afraid to speak my mind, I don’t wear my emotions on my sleeve instead I keep them locked away in a little chest of memories to deal with when I am alone, I never really worried about how I looked until that year in high school, that year became the year I felt I had to compete with the other girls to be recognized.

I was blonde, had big brown eyes, a tan, slender but well shaped already, a huge personality, and a lot of spunk. I had 2 girl friends and all the rest were my favorite guy friends, most of which chased after me but my daddy kept them back with a ten foot pole and a rifle like most fathers of the south. I was able to friends with anyone I wasn’t big on judging a book by its cover so to speak. Fast forward a few years past graduation, I am now a wife and mom. I have a daughter of my own, although she just turned 9 this past winter she is a lot like me, full of spunk and more beauty than she knows at this point; she is a lot like my sister and I. I want to be a good role model for her and help her grow into a young woman who is fearless just like the ladies before her. 

The quote above touched my thoughts because I feel like in today’s world we are always looking at women, however it’s not in the way they really want to be looked at. Women want to know they are smart, funny, have some spunk, can share their thoughts without being judged by men, can love their bodies and be confident in them without being torn apart by those piranha fish in the sea; we want to be loved for who we are, and most importantly know we are beautiful because there is nobody else out there who is just like us. We are all created differently, there is no other woman out there that looks just like you, even twins don’t look just alike, they may be similar but they are their own unique person. The way we carry ourselves is different, we wear clothes differently, do our makeup and hair differently; we all have our own unique style and way of doing things. We as woman no matter who we are, where we come from, where we live, or who we know are all beautiful creatures full of creativity, curiosity, and mystery; nothing can hold us back from our dreams, the world is literally at our fingertips.

Another thought that crossed my mind is what are we as woman giving others to look at? Is how we take care of ourselves physically, mentally, or spiritually making us stand out in a positive or negative way? Thing is if you really think about it, we as a women are always being looked at, whether it’s by your fellow ladies, men, family, friends, strangers, or children; you are always being looked at; Even when we are gone we will never fade away because we made some type of impression on someone after us, we create a memory for someone. The only little bit of advice I have left for you is to:

Make sure you’re giving them something positive to look at!
Stay Beautiful, Kristen

1 comment:

  1. I love this post. I go by the credo 'People are going to stare anyway, so give them something to look at!'

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